Michael Masiello’s answer to I love my boyfriend, but I am afraid of losing him, because I have no control over what he does. I am afraid of loving and trusting because I don’t want to suffer. I get mad at him for things he hasn’t done yet. What should I do?
Look, not to experience emotional distress, you have to be willing not to experience emotional exaltation. No suffering means no vertiginous peaks of shared joy.
his heights are so vertiginous that one gets a nosebleed thinking about them
- a : characterized by or suffering from vertigo or dizziness; b : inclined to frequent and often pointless change : inconstant
- causing or tending to cause dizziness the vertiginous heights
- marked by turning : rotary the vertiginous motion of the earth
“Vertiginous,” from the Latin vertiginosus, is the adjective form of “vertigo,” which in Latin means a turning or whirling action. Both words descend from the Latin verb vertere, meaning “to turn.” (“Vertiginous” and “vertigo” are just two of an almost dizzying array of “vertere” offspring, from “adverse” to “vortex.”) The “dizzying” sense of “vertiginous” is often used figuratively, as in “vertiginous medical discoveries may drastically change life in the 21st century.”